I'll speak for the oppressed minority. I absolutely love my kids. Might have another couple more.
Anytime you have a chance to pass on your toxic masculinity you have to do it.
in THIS economy??????
You must be rich.
Far from it, I'm sure I'm safely in the bottom half of HH incomes. Maybe I'll see things different later on but at this point my kids haven't been particularly expensive.
You haven't added it up, aren't counting opportunity costs, or they aren't very old. Kids cost you a fortune.
I agree that having kids is great and it's really the only thing of significance I've ever done in my life. It's also the most basic human task. Reproduce - or some retarded fucker will and the gene pool will get shallower. We don't have a shortage of people but we do have a shortage of good people.
I can see the light at the end of the tunnel now. One kid is out the door already and the other isn't far behind. Then I'm going to come over to their place and eat all their fucking food and drink their liquor.
Definite plenty of opportunity costs but those are very worthwhile to me.
Like I said, they're young, I'm sure it will get more expensive as they grow up. But also, we plan on not spoiling the hell out of them. Thankfully I have a wife whose a bit of a minimalist so she's on bored with not giving them everything they want.
I think a big part of the "kids are so expensive" thing is plenty of moms like to spend a shitload of money on them.[/b] Well that and child support is a bitch. Thankfully I am in neither of those situations.
This is true, however child care is a bitch. I'm guessing if yours are 3 and 4 and you aren't bitching about the costs of child care then you don't have those.
It's basically another mortgage. After school care too.
The have kids young vs have kids old thing can go two ways. Have kids young, you miss more of your 20s, they may suck your money dry when you don't have much, but you hit freedom from them with more of your life left and aren't responsible for them when you're presumably earning more during the back half of your career.
Have them old, you get your party 20s but also need to save a decent amount to get the compound interest benefit, then when you're at peak earnings you're also at peak kid expenses.
#firstworldproblems
FWIW I went the have kid mid-20s, stop at 1 (snip!), wife work from home route. College is looming which looks ugly. But then I'm free and clear and hopefully not dead.