Urban was hated by the MAC when he was at Bowling Green
He's an extreme example but average losers hate above average winners
The Pac hated Don James
UW and some idiot fans think UW needs a coach that everyone likes because he does it the right way
So we keep hiring losers
So, Winning with bad man > losing with good man? Pole the shareholders.
You don't want to see how the sausage is made...every coach has decisions, actions, and interactions that while being uncomfortable at the time, and possibly regrettable down the line, are what's best for the program. As a college guy, he was running the show, so he had a lot of layers of cover, provided by people whose careers were hanging in the balance, to do whatever he wanted. He could fuck with whoever he wanted to with no repercussions, and no one to answer to. Alums and boosters are happy when you win, so all else is overlooked ( "He's a prick, but he's OUR prick"). When the heat turned to fire, he pulled the "I have headaches, and want to spend more tim with the fam" card, twice. He knew what was coming, and he bailed, twice.
One of the iron laws of coaching..."If you do something that reflects poorly on the program, you will no longer be a part of the program"...
In the NFL, he had someone to answer to...the guy with a big 'stashe, and a bigger checkbook.
As far as "hating" goes, I wanted to hate Chip at Oregon, but I grew to respect the hell out of what he created there, on a technical level. Same with Shaw. They created a mentality of, "this is who we are, this is what we do, try to stop it". I could do without the smirking and smugness, but it is where we are. As long as they had players, it worked.
You have got to manage people...college kids (and ADs) have no leverage (IF you are winning) so everyone toes the line. Urbs is apparently about Urbs first, second, and third, and everyone else can fuck off...It can work in college, but not with adults (NFL), and an owner. They all have ego, Urbs couldn't control his.
There is no question he has had great success on the field, but I wouldn't work for him, and wouldn't want my son to play for him. I'm not looking for a Boy Scout troop leader ($75K), but first and foremost you've got to lead, and people won't follow someone they don't trust, when they know better / have a choice. He's been exposed, spectacularly...
tl/dr/my two cents...